Should You Consider Couples Therapy? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions...

Billie Tyler  • November 14, 2017

Relationships naturally go through ups and downs. But do you feel like your relationship has more lows than highs? If so, that's okay. Many couples experience rough patches.

However, your relationship doesn't have to stay that way. With couples therapy, you can re-build the happier and healthier relationship that you long for. 

As a Couples Therapist in Spokane, I've helped many couples re-build happier and healthier relationships.

If you're unsure if your relationship could benefit from couples therapy, here are a few questions to ask yourself...

1. Do you feel like you’re growing together? Or apart? 

When we first start our relationships, we often set out on the same path. However, as time goes on, it's natural for things to change. Do you both still share the same goals? Do you feel like you are progressing together? Or are you starting to drift in different directions? 

Drift is expected and okay. Even successful relationships go through drifts. However, if you feel like you're drifting too far apart, then couples therapy can help you learn to copilot the ever-evolving path of life together.

2. Do you feel like your opinions matter? Or don't matter?

We all know that listening is love. However, it's common to feel unheard or misunderstood from time to time. Do you make an effort to listen to one another? Or do you tune each other out? 

Even though disagreements are normal and natural, it's important to approach them with an open ear. In my counseling sessions, I help couples develop new communication patterns so each individual can have a voice, even when the topic is difficult.

3. Do you feel like equal teammates? Or adversaries?

Relationships are all about being on the same team. However, when an argument comes up, it's easy to have the mentality that you're on opposing teams. Do you work through your problems together? Or do you quickly become combative?

It's okay if you don't see things the same way. However, no matter the issue, it's important that you discuss issues as teammates.

As a Couples Therapist, I help couples get back on the same side because, almost every time, they want the same outcome. They just get stuck on proving each other wrong, so the goal gets lost.

4. Do you feel supported by your partner? Or unsupported?

Support is one of the most vital parts of a relationship. Do you feel like your partner supports you? Or do you feel like you're on your own?

Often, this is truly the crux of many relationships issues. In my Spokane office, we focus on the moments when someone felt the most supported by the other person. And we build from there to create an even stronger bond and deeper connection.

Have questions about Couples Therapy?

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About Billie Tyler

Hi, I'm Billie Tyler and I help couples in the Spokane area build happier and healthier relationships. 

With a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, my philosophy is to help couples find their strengths and build off of what's already working.

My goal is to help you and your partner start living the big, full life that everyone deserves. 

Through openness and commitment, you and your partner can have the happier and healthier relationship that you long for.